Life is too short to hate. Forgive pair we live like forgive yourself! The error
should be excused huge let alone deliberately exaggerated by our own.
Tirulah nature of Al A'ffu (Sorry Giver) God ... The incessant His pardon me while kitam willing to repent. Only the sin of polytheism, but it ... edge and forgiveness of God is not "bertapi" again.
So who does not want us to forgive our spouse? We are just people who were innocent ... Are we too good to not forgive the sins of others? Indeed, other people are entitled to forgiveness among humans. And most people are entitled to forgiveness that is none other than our spouse.
Because the love of God continues to willing to forgive, and because we should love too willing to forgive our spouse only as expect forgiveness of God. Remember, we love them not because they love us, but because of God's commandments to love them!
Say to yourself, how difficult though, you must forgive. Indeed, sometimes his behavior, speech or attitudes that are too offensive ... Detained-lasting flavor, closed-closed eyes, coaxed, coax the soul, but offense is all imagined and remembered. Want to forget? Ah, far away. Just forgive even such a heavy feeling in my heart.
When such feelings come in your heart ... Realize that time to test your love of God! He not only test your love to him, but to test your love to HER ..
At that terujilah we love, what is really in love for God or love only by feelings of lust or love? Indeed, most people can make yourself angry with the person you love most. So when we tested this on myself to say ... Oh, God You are taught the meaning of love and patience.
If you really love him for his love He (Allah), the easier we have sacrificed their anger. Thus the real love was always ahead of their anger and resolve. If love is lost by the rage, it shows our love is not really in love! We are not cintakannya, but only love ourselves.
It will give peace of forgiveness not only for your spouse, but in your own heart. Believe me, our hatred and anger against someone (even more so to those we love) is better than his own personal vengeance that we overlook.
Anger like 'bomb' is waiting to explode inside kita.Ia be transformed into a love that is very painful disease. The name of the disease is "hate, but missed."
Once again, to have peace in life ... grant forgiveness. According to the psychologist, if we forgive that we 'free' from the shackles of individuals, events and circumstances that we overlook it.
As long as not forgiving, so long as that is what we are angry with yourself and always sticks to the heart kita.Kemarahan is "fire" in our hearts. It was hot and membahang inside. While forgiveness is like the cold snow that will extinguish.
Thus, the pardon is a pair of traditional or "life style" of the righteous. Hadrat Umar meleterinya forgiving wife. Hadrat Ali had ever forgive Siti Fatimah mengguris feelings. We would not want to emulate them? Get started with a simple, convenient to forgive those who we are. Who else, if not a wife or husband?
Islam demands that we forgive our enemies though ... What's more forgiving her or his own. Remember, we will not be happy as long as our side is not happy. Was not happy with the gain, but to give. Not only provide physical and material needs, but mental and emotional needs, is forgiveness. And the fact that our spouse is entitled to receive forgiveness before we forgive others!
Surprisingly hard to forgive people we are still alive. We easily forgive those who have died. While forgiveness is important for people who nasuh life, not for people who have died.
Imagine, our wife or husband suddenly died and we did not have time to forgive, our hearts when tenangkah Sidia left forever? While there is still "not complete" between the two of us care?
Our own or a sudden death, can we return to the quiet before giving forgiveness to others? Do not delay anymore, forgive me, for without forgiveness, we will hunt a lifelong sense of guilt if one of us went to God first.
Trust me! I've heard stories of how there is a death of a husband and wife, who is still tormented soul as a result does not forgive his wife suddenly dies in an accident is not thought-thought. Ask for forgiveness, and give forgiveness, if indeed we are aware that death came suddenly!
Was how many times I repeat that if we do not forgive others, is akin to not forgive yourself. Our hearts will suffer more because of it. It has been proven many psychiatric residents are from those who are miserly ... Hunks for real? No! But too miserly to give a forgiveness. Do not mean to forgive, if not, our lives will always be shrouded in stress, depression and anxiety although probably not to be sent to a psychiatric hospital.
Tangles the mind is not caused by nerve pain, but because of emotional disappointment, frustration, fear, anxiety and fear due to hate and angry with something, someone or a situation. This disease can not be cured by any pills, antibodies or vaccines ... but only by acts of forgiving others. Giving forgiveness is therapeutic and healing the sick soul.
A philosopher, Plato once said, "medical errors is to try to cure the body without curing the mind. The mind and body are one and should not be treated separately." God willing, if the mental illness and heal the mind first, the physical illness can be cured easily. Who's the doctor? Is not our own? What is the cure? Yes, forgiving attitude.
Hence the etiquette of sleep recommended by the Prophet to be practiced by us all is to forgive the mistakes of others. After reading "4 Qul", prayers and remembrances bed the other, we are asked to forgive all the mistakes of others on that day. And "others" the closest and most of us are sleeping on friends ... who else if not for her or us.
Forgive mistakes our spouse before the end of that episode today. Do not store in the "files" in our hearts. "Delete" immediately before it turns into a virus that will destroy the love, affection, warmth and passion of our marriage. Never again think "should be, he can not do that or this ..." As long as there is a similar mind, so long as there is a sense that will not want to forgive or apologize.
Who we are supposed to be treated, respected and indulge in accordance with our own expectations? Actually, we had expected in one that is causing the cracks.
"My wife should behave this way toward me."
"My husband should not be so with me."
These expectations result in disappointment when it did not happen as we expect. And oddly enough that's what always happened. Why? The answer is simple, the world and life is not as we expected. So do not book with a mental illness often can not expect anything and should not be expected. Instead, accept or jangkalah something unexpected!
Thus, if something unexpected occurs comes from our partner, the attitude of forgiveness is the best antidote to relieve. Oh, I suppose so, but he is saying, not what is ... I'm sorry. I will continue to remind, educate them and prayed. All because I was and continue to cintakannya. If no apology, there was a sign of love. No expression, "no forgiveness for you" as long as there is love.
Sometimes there is too difficult to forgive their partners. They are always upset, regret and frustration over mistakes, shortcomings and weaknesses of the husband or wife. Those who attack "but miss hate" will punish themselves. Sometimes the wife scolded, diherdik and condemned in the day, but at night she would sleep with him again. Messenger husbands hated so.
They are hard to forgive the couple will live through life suffering. Live in hatred, loneliness, depression and prolonged boredom. When the close arose weary, longing arises when the remote.
So forgive me while she became your spouse. Indication of your love will go to heaven is your home in the world became quiet, peaceful and harmonious. What else can contribute to it, if not forgiveness?
Psychologist said, "God may forgive us our sins, but we are not nervous." That is, the nervous system will not tolerate the stress and anxiety. And long before the Prophet Muhammad had warned, you die with your anger!
Civil / i I, I who write this is still bermujahadah to forgive.
- Article iluvislam.com Columnists Bios
Ustaz Mohd Juoi Pahrol is a writer of books, articles, lyrics and also antiphonal singing script. One book by him is' About Love. " Authors born in Ipoh, Perak is a master trainer for the droid Perkasa Sdn. Bhd.. and also the chief editor of this magazine issue Telaga Biru Sdn. Bhd.. His blog is www.genta-rasa.com.
Tirulah nature of Al A'ffu (Sorry Giver) God ... The incessant His pardon me while kitam willing to repent. Only the sin of polytheism, but it ... edge and forgiveness of God is not "bertapi" again.
So who does not want us to forgive our spouse? We are just people who were innocent ... Are we too good to not forgive the sins of others? Indeed, other people are entitled to forgiveness among humans. And most people are entitled to forgiveness that is none other than our spouse.
Because the love of God continues to willing to forgive, and because we should love too willing to forgive our spouse only as expect forgiveness of God. Remember, we love them not because they love us, but because of God's commandments to love them!
Say to yourself, how difficult though, you must forgive. Indeed, sometimes his behavior, speech or attitudes that are too offensive ... Detained-lasting flavor, closed-closed eyes, coaxed, coax the soul, but offense is all imagined and remembered. Want to forget? Ah, far away. Just forgive even such a heavy feeling in my heart.
When such feelings come in your heart ... Realize that time to test your love of God! He not only test your love to him, but to test your love to HER ..
At that terujilah we love, what is really in love for God or love only by feelings of lust or love? Indeed, most people can make yourself angry with the person you love most. So when we tested this on myself to say ... Oh, God You are taught the meaning of love and patience.
If you really love him for his love He (Allah), the easier we have sacrificed their anger. Thus the real love was always ahead of their anger and resolve. If love is lost by the rage, it shows our love is not really in love! We are not cintakannya, but only love ourselves.
It will give peace of forgiveness not only for your spouse, but in your own heart. Believe me, our hatred and anger against someone (even more so to those we love) is better than his own personal vengeance that we overlook.
Anger like 'bomb' is waiting to explode inside kita.Ia be transformed into a love that is very painful disease. The name of the disease is "hate, but missed."
Once again, to have peace in life ... grant forgiveness. According to the psychologist, if we forgive that we 'free' from the shackles of individuals, events and circumstances that we overlook it.
As long as not forgiving, so long as that is what we are angry with yourself and always sticks to the heart kita.Kemarahan is "fire" in our hearts. It was hot and membahang inside. While forgiveness is like the cold snow that will extinguish.
Thus, the pardon is a pair of traditional or "life style" of the righteous. Hadrat Umar meleterinya forgiving wife. Hadrat Ali had ever forgive Siti Fatimah mengguris feelings. We would not want to emulate them? Get started with a simple, convenient to forgive those who we are. Who else, if not a wife or husband?
Islam demands that we forgive our enemies though ... What's more forgiving her or his own. Remember, we will not be happy as long as our side is not happy. Was not happy with the gain, but to give. Not only provide physical and material needs, but mental and emotional needs, is forgiveness. And the fact that our spouse is entitled to receive forgiveness before we forgive others!
Surprisingly hard to forgive people we are still alive. We easily forgive those who have died. While forgiveness is important for people who nasuh life, not for people who have died.
Imagine, our wife or husband suddenly died and we did not have time to forgive, our hearts when tenangkah Sidia left forever? While there is still "not complete" between the two of us care?
Our own or a sudden death, can we return to the quiet before giving forgiveness to others? Do not delay anymore, forgive me, for without forgiveness, we will hunt a lifelong sense of guilt if one of us went to God first.
Trust me! I've heard stories of how there is a death of a husband and wife, who is still tormented soul as a result does not forgive his wife suddenly dies in an accident is not thought-thought. Ask for forgiveness, and give forgiveness, if indeed we are aware that death came suddenly!
Was how many times I repeat that if we do not forgive others, is akin to not forgive yourself. Our hearts will suffer more because of it. It has been proven many psychiatric residents are from those who are miserly ... Hunks for real? No! But too miserly to give a forgiveness. Do not mean to forgive, if not, our lives will always be shrouded in stress, depression and anxiety although probably not to be sent to a psychiatric hospital.
Tangles the mind is not caused by nerve pain, but because of emotional disappointment, frustration, fear, anxiety and fear due to hate and angry with something, someone or a situation. This disease can not be cured by any pills, antibodies or vaccines ... but only by acts of forgiving others. Giving forgiveness is therapeutic and healing the sick soul.
A philosopher, Plato once said, "medical errors is to try to cure the body without curing the mind. The mind and body are one and should not be treated separately." God willing, if the mental illness and heal the mind first, the physical illness can be cured easily. Who's the doctor? Is not our own? What is the cure? Yes, forgiving attitude.
Hence the etiquette of sleep recommended by the Prophet to be practiced by us all is to forgive the mistakes of others. After reading "4 Qul", prayers and remembrances bed the other, we are asked to forgive all the mistakes of others on that day. And "others" the closest and most of us are sleeping on friends ... who else if not for her or us.
Forgive mistakes our spouse before the end of that episode today. Do not store in the "files" in our hearts. "Delete" immediately before it turns into a virus that will destroy the love, affection, warmth and passion of our marriage. Never again think "should be, he can not do that or this ..." As long as there is a similar mind, so long as there is a sense that will not want to forgive or apologize.
Who we are supposed to be treated, respected and indulge in accordance with our own expectations? Actually, we had expected in one that is causing the cracks.
"My wife should behave this way toward me."
"My husband should not be so with me."
These expectations result in disappointment when it did not happen as we expect. And oddly enough that's what always happened. Why? The answer is simple, the world and life is not as we expected. So do not book with a mental illness often can not expect anything and should not be expected. Instead, accept or jangkalah something unexpected!
Thus, if something unexpected occurs comes from our partner, the attitude of forgiveness is the best antidote to relieve. Oh, I suppose so, but he is saying, not what is ... I'm sorry. I will continue to remind, educate them and prayed. All because I was and continue to cintakannya. If no apology, there was a sign of love. No expression, "no forgiveness for you" as long as there is love.
Sometimes there is too difficult to forgive their partners. They are always upset, regret and frustration over mistakes, shortcomings and weaknesses of the husband or wife. Those who attack "but miss hate" will punish themselves. Sometimes the wife scolded, diherdik and condemned in the day, but at night she would sleep with him again. Messenger husbands hated so.
They are hard to forgive the couple will live through life suffering. Live in hatred, loneliness, depression and prolonged boredom. When the close arose weary, longing arises when the remote.
So forgive me while she became your spouse. Indication of your love will go to heaven is your home in the world became quiet, peaceful and harmonious. What else can contribute to it, if not forgiveness?
Psychologist said, "God may forgive us our sins, but we are not nervous." That is, the nervous system will not tolerate the stress and anxiety. And long before the Prophet Muhammad had warned, you die with your anger!
Civil / i I, I who write this is still bermujahadah to forgive.
- Article iluvislam.com Columnists Bios
Ustaz Mohd Juoi Pahrol is a writer of books, articles, lyrics and also antiphonal singing script. One book by him is' About Love. " Authors born in Ipoh, Perak is a master trainer for the droid Perkasa Sdn. Bhd.. and also the chief editor of this magazine issue Telaga Biru Sdn. Bhd.. His blog is www.genta-rasa.com.
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